Welcome to the Dear Brittany Show. This is a podcast where you'll hear everything I always want to say and everything we're all thinking. I know it's you too.

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So get ready for a raw slice of reality. I'm your host, Brittany Krystantos, and I am an author, speaker, mental health advocate and host of a mental health series. I am very proud to say I have made an impact on the mental health of others for a decade now.

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Welcome to the Dear Brittany podcast. In today's episode, can psychics really see your futures? And how does it help our mental health? We're diving into a fantastic topic at the intersection of spirituality and well-being. Today we have an amazing, talented psychic, Jana Stern, who brings a wealth of experience and understanding to the table.

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Welcome. Thank you so much. I'm so excited to be here.

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I'm so happy for you to be here. I'm excited to talk about, is psychics real? Do you see our future? Like, tell me. I mean, yes, psychics are real.

The kicker is that we're all psychic. What I do is not special. I am special, but what I do is not.

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And we all have the ability to tap in whatever that might mean for you. Do I see the future? Yes. Do I talk about what I see in the future? No, because we have free will.

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And free will is an important thing that we need to exercise. I actually think that we undervalue free will. And I think that the best psychics don't impose their view or their vision on you.

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But I think that it's an important thing for us to be able to see what options are possible based on where we are here and now, and then make educated, informed decisions based on that. So that would be my answer for that. Okay, free will.

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Can we just talk about that? Because that's like some, this is giving me like some like, I don't know, like Marvel vibes. Like we're talking like superheroes and then like, you know, free will. Like these like superheroes have to do things at the free will, right? I don't know.

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I'm just a nerd for Marvel. I love it. I'm such a nerd.

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So free will. So meaning, okay, for example, you see me on the street. I'm Brittany.

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Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you too. And you feel something.

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Are you not going to, fine, we're at Starbucks. Sorry, change of scenery. Starbucks.

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I'm ordering a pumpkin spice latte. Of course you are. And you feel something.

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Are you like, when I'd be like, hi ma'am, I feel something. So once upon a time, maybe 15 years ago, when I started to dive in and open up my gifts. Yes, I would have.

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And that's actually how I built my practice. I used to walk around with a deck all the time. And whenever spirit directed me towards a literal stranger, sometimes at Starbucks, but I haven't been at Starbucks since 2015.

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I digress. Whenever I would see a stranger that spirit was like that one, I would go over and I would read them. And now I have a very different agreement with spirit and with people who are still in the physical, there has to be an exchange of energy of some kind.

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So for you and I, our energy exchange is this podcast, right? You have a big audience of a lot of different listeners who have different interests and the exchanges that I'm going to share for you what I see. And you're going to then share that message with the masses. Got it.

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Got it now. I got it. Yeah.

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So you're not just going to go interrupt people and be like, sir, sir, I think something's going to happen. But I will say, even in an energetic container, in a container where let's say somebody's paying me and they're my client, I still won't give this is what you should or should not do advice because free will implies that you need to make your own sovereign decisions. I love that.

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Okay. I think free will also has to do with like your world to take away the psychic ability. So like, again, we're talking about, can you see my future? How does this psychic ability affect our mental health and who we are in society? I think free will is like people.

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Like, for example, I come from a really big Jewish family and. Same babe. Oh, you do? Sure do.

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Okay. Shana Tova. Yes.

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That's so funny. So Rosh Hashanah, better night. Okay.

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I'll just say there was drama. And people like to impose their own opinion all the time. That's the same thing in life, right? Like in psychic abilities and in life, like we don't want free will.

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Like, we don't want your opinion. No, we want free will. We want.

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And let me say this from a perspective of everybody is on their own journey. Those people who are trying to impose their will upon you come from a place of wanting to see good for you and believing that their way is the way. And if you don't do what they think is the best.

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Then it threatens their reality. And then they threaten you by saying things like, oh, if you don't listen to me, then you're not going to be successful. If you don't do this, you're not going to find real love.

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And that's not okay. And also correct. It's not okay.

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And when they do that healed and whole, it's not your business. What other people think of you? That is a mic drop moment because it's not. At all.

At all. No, it's really not. And the way that other people.

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When you look at other people, including elders, parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, even younger people, grandparents, whomever, whoever it is. That's like, I know because I've had X amount of years living my life. They're not in your shoes.

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They're not living by your experiences. They're not living by they're living by theirs and they have their own traumas. Exactly.

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Their own belief systems that are built around fears and traumas and experiences. Right. And when you look at them as if they are already in themselves, as if they are in one bubble and you are in another and what they are saying actually cannot penetrate your aura, your field of energy.

Suddenly you're like, I'm so sorry that you feel that I need to behave in a particular way in order to be loved, in order to be successful. And then you can have more compassion, more love. You can be more your own radiant self without needing to then impose your will.

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You shouldn't do this. And this is how a good person would or wouldn't behave. You're like just as.

Can I swear? Yes. You're just as shitty as they are for being like, you shouldn't do this. And as an adult or as a whatever, as my friend, as my cousin, as my parents, as whomever you should or shouldn't say these things to me, no, they're going to say them.

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That's what happens when you're in your own world. But when you're in a space of healed and whole, you actually don't behave that way. You actually allow them to be like, that's shitty that you believe that.

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Cool. I'm good, though. You know, it's like watch me like watch me be successful.

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That's right. Kiss them with kindness. Watch me.

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By the way, I just realized something. I was wearing a blue shirt before and you were wearing a blue shirt. That's funny.

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I changed because I'm having like, I don't know, monthly cycles coming and I'm sweating. And I was like, I need a tank top. But you better watch your hormones.

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What are you eating? What are you supplementing? You got to look into all that. Nothing. I just had PID, pelvic inflammatory disease, six months of being sick.

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Recovering right now, a little information to everyone. Recovering right now. So now like my whole body and insides are like cleansing.

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Yeah, I got that. Well, I mean, if that if you're talking about your pelvic floor, that's your root chakra, right? That's your safety. That's your security.

That is your capacity for making money and feeling grounded in this world. So things are healing in that space for you. Good.

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I need some money. It's coming, baby. It's coming because I'm healing it, right? So on topic, this is what happens with me.

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I get off topic all the time. OK, so I was saying, oh, yeah, I was wearing a blue shirt. But I was saying that because it's energy.

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We're like connected. I met Jenna and I was like, wow, I feel like I've known you before. Where? Like, where have I met you? From the last time.

The last time in another life. For sure. Yeah.

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And, you know, I speak about this quite a bit. We have like soul family, right? And particularly in the Jewish community, when you meet another Jewish woman, you're like, we've been doing this. We do this together.

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We're in this together. This is what it is. And, you know, when you're a beautiful blonde Jewish girl, we're really having it, aren't we? We're having time.

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We're just really like, yeah, yeah, I look like I'm not one of them, but I'm one of them. So yeah, we got the blonde hair, we got the blue eyes and we're both Jewish. It's so funny because my co-host Nikki is not here right now because she had to deal with her own thing today.

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Got it. She's like this Jewish woman, too. And she's so funny because she says so I was wearing like a moisturizer that was like totally new.

And she's like, honey, that's not for a Jewish woman. OK, like there's this thing she said. And I was like, honey, it's just on the market for like a month.

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You need to go to like the foundations, coconut oil, OK? Coconut oil. You're a Jewish woman. You're sensitive to everything.

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That's right. And you are inbred. We are because we got the hips and we got everything and we're sensitive to everything.

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All foods, all foods. Stomach. So we got it.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'd be careful, she said. You got to have coconut oil.

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And I was like, thanks, Nikki. I started putting coconut oil on my face. But it's just so funny because we're just so similar in some ways, but we're also our own unique people going back to.

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OK, so we talked about the whole misconceptions of psychics, right? Like the free will. Yeah. I want to talk about kind of like defining what it means to you to be have these abilities.

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When when did you find out you had this gift? I think I was always a person who was full of light. I was always the little kid that could light up a room. I was always, you know, my energy took up the whole room wherever I went.

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And I was certainly the kid that, you know, my friends would come to for guidance about whatever it might be. And I always kind of knew that I had a gift, certainly of gab, but many gifts. And, you know, my sort of Marvel hero origin story.

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Marvel. I love it. Tony Stark's Iron Man, my favorite.

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Yeah, the story for me is that, you know, my father was mentally ill. So he was in and out of institutions most of my life. And I could hear voices.

I could always hear crystals. I could hear spirit. And I didn't know what to do with it.

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And so I really parked it. I put it aside. I literally swallowed it.

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I literally threw it up. And I, you know, I binged it. I purged it.

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I tried to get rid of it as many ways as possible in my teens and my very early 20s. And then I had a suicide attempt. And on the other side of that, I was gone for 11 minutes.

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And on the other side of that, I really had an understanding that like, no, no, no, no, I'm here for a reason. And I need to talk about all the things that have been and that can be. And that it's OK to hear voices.

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And that hearing voices doesn't necessarily mean you're crazy. Sometimes it does. But I believe that crazy, you know, and gifted are the same thing, right? We say it all the time.

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The line between genius and crazy is very, very thin. And I think that psychic and psychosis are built in the same word for a reason. So I went on my own journey.

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I started to dive into different energy healing practices when I was starting to heal from all of that. And as I got older and older, I just kept diving deeper and deeper and deeper and really learning to trust myself. And the more I trusted myself, the more I was like, maybe I am gifted.

And I just let myself keep working out those psychic muscles. And now I teach other people how to do it, too. Wow, you said a lot there.

That is so powerful and so inspiring. I want to go back to the obviously the mental health part of this, because you obviously have a really important story. You've gone through something.

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And, you know, this is why I do what I do. Because even you saying that you had your mental health, your suicide attempt, whoever's listening to this right now, I want them to know, you know, like how far you've come and how you turned your life around. Can you share a bit about, you know, the strength it took to choose life, to come out of that and to be the woman you are today helping others? Because that is something that I've met so many people with the work I do.

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And people are struggling. And, you know, we are really, really badly in a crisis in the world right now. The mental health epidemic is rising like crazy.

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The numbers are growing up. Suicide attempts up. Especially in your generation.

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My generation, 15 to 35, I want to say, I believe the numbers are high. And for anyone listening to that and hearing this right now, maybe could you speak to them? Because I don't want to just skip that, because you said a lot of really powerful things as well. But that was something that really connected to me because of who I am and what I've gone through, too.

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And I know there's other people out there listening. And I know that they need to hear that. You know, a lot of it was about forgiving myself that I had thoughts I didn't like.

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Wasn't, you know, a lot of times people talk about like, oh, meditate, pray, it'll go away. I'm like, no, it's not going to ever go away. A lot of it was acknowledging that the thoughts were there and then not judging that the thought was there.

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Much of what happens in a depression loop is we think, I hate myself. Then the next thought is, I don't want to be here. And then the next thought is, it's fucked up that I'm thinking those thoughts.

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I'm fucked up. It's fucked up that I think that I'm fucked up. Oh, God, what do I do now? Yeah, I should end it.

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And that thought just keeps going around and around and around and around. And the only way to stop it and to like move towards, wait a minute, hold on, let's think something different, is to thought interrupt. Is to not allow yourself to judge the thought that's already so heavy.

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If you are somebody who thinks about ending your life, and I don't even mean plans, I just mean like you think, what would it be like if I wasn't here anymore? Would that be better? That makes sense to me. This is an entirely chaotic reality that we live in. And it's very hard to be a human.

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It's very hard to be alive. And so if you have thoughts of wanting to go someplace better, valid. So stop judging the thoughts and instead just pause, notice them.

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I always say like point at it like Waldo. Notice it like a shape of a cloud in the sky. That's what we say in meditation.

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Let it be the shape that it's in and then let it transform. Let it shift. Because eventually when you thought interrupt, when you give yourself permission to just think the thought and then not judge it, what happens is all of a sudden you're like, is that thought helpful? And the answer might be yes, but it most likely is no.

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And so eventually you start to think different thoughts. You start to recognize that the pause of that thought, one breath of I'm thinking that thought again, there it is again. And really for me at the time, those suicidal thoughts were constant.

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I didn't know that they were constant, but man, oh man, were they constant. And at first I had to really just notice them. You know, wherever I am, wherever I'm thinking.

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And then just letting it be what it is allowed the space for me to invite. I don't want to listen to that. And so eventually I could like turn down the knob of that volume.

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And I will say that I received a healing called the life activation that made that easier for me. But I believe that it's very, very possible for everybody to watch their thoughts over a period of time through meditation to and then change them and eventually step into your light and eventually allow yourself to love yourself. But you have to be able to be resilient.

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You have to be willing to like go against the grain, because really in this reality, the norm is to hate yourself, you know. Yeah, it is. And I love what you said there in the beginning.

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You're like, oh, they say meditation, prayers, all this happiness. But I believe, like you said, the key is you have to be able to surrender to the darkness, to the pain. You have to be able to cry.

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You have to be able to feel something in order to remove it. It's like you don't like when you get a cut, you don't just like put a band-aid on and then like expect like layers and layers to grow over it. You have to like have the skin heal, right? And you have to like put like medicine on it.

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So I agree with you. And in the beginning of my journey, too, I used to go to yoga all the time. And I always like, OK, Zen, Namaste.

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And then I wasn't really healing the inside of me, the little girl that needed love. And that little girl needed healing. She needed the love.

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It wasn't me today. It was the little girl that felt unloved and neglected as a kid. And I believe, like you said, if you're willing to do the hard work, then that's how you get to that place of happiness.

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Yes, yes. But you have to look. The more that you numb yourself, you know, by scrolling for hours on TikTok or by, you know, eating or not eating or by, you know, drinking or smoking or smoking other things or whatever your choose your addiction, whatever you're doing, if you're doing that to numb the feeling.

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Yep. I know someone that got addicted to smoking weed every second that person woke up. Yep. 

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Yep. And it's not OK. It's OK to have.

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It's OK to indulge. It's OK to enjoy wine or smoke some marijuana to relax you sometimes. But if you're relying on that substance, right? So once upon a time, we relied on wine and weed and other things in ceremonial spaces as medicine.

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Really? Tell us. I mean, marijuana, Santa, like Maria, she that's what we call marijuana. That plant is a plant medicine.

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It is now being horribly abused because our government now sells it to us like it's nothing. Same with alcohol. You know, be in stores.

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That's right. But alcohol lets the spirits in. That's why we call it spirits.

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That way I don't like alcohol. Probably. So going back to you said when you found out your gifts, I have gifts, too.

Oh, yes, you do. I see. I see things.

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Yeah. So it always scared me growing up. It's called clairvoyance.

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Yeah. It's spirits. And I never like alcohol.

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Sure. Never. Sure. 

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It lets all kinds of dark visions. When I do have a glass of wine, I find myself feeling uneasy. But I have a joint of marijuana and I'm calm.

I like it. I'll have it sometimes. But the alcohol don't like to explain that.

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I want to know more. I mean, like I say, so all living things have energy to them, right? The grapes of your wine or the potatoes of your vodka or the, you know, and any anything that we consume had life. It was alive.

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And then we consume it, whether it was plant matter or if it was an animal. Like, I can't eat meat because the suffering of those animals, the way that we kill meat in this country is so inhumane. I can't do it.

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When it comes to alcohol, it does. It opens up your aura for just about anything to come in. And yeah, you probably see all kinds of things.

And I imagine there are some alcohols that are better than others. Usually people are like tequila is okay. Wine is fine.

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White wine. I like whiskey. I'll do something nasty to you.

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You know, vodka. Not so great either. Like, yeah.

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And same with weed. There are lots of people who are super, super, super sensitive. I don't know what the hell the government puts in those ships.

You know, it's better to have homegrown marijuana and store bought or like a place that grows it. Yeah. Like, go to your weed dealer if you can.

My father goes to these like old ancient people. Like, that's the good kind of weed. God bless him.

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Zeta-Lori. He goes to these- Shout out Zeta-Lori. Yeah, Zeta-Lori.

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He's like his person, like his old friend. So that's the better one. Amazing.

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So, okay. That is crazy to even think that. I used to think I didn't like alcohol because my biggest fear is throwing up.

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But now I'm realizing, no, it's because I don't want to see things. And I see things so much. I feel things.

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When we purge, sorry to interrupt. But when we purge, it's the body clearing things that we don't need. It's like a phobia.

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Like, you know, those ones where people are like, the spiders, like mine is puking. I do not, I go nuts. I can't do it.

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Well, as somebody who's puked a lot in my life, it's, you know, it is. It's about ridding the body of whatever it is that's kind of stuck there. And perhaps there are things that you're clinging to.

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Probably, yeah. We'll leave that for the next part of this. For part two.

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So that's really cool to know. So what? So your psychic abilities, how has it? So since you've gone through your mental health journey, you've become who you are today. How has your psychic abilities, your gift actually helped you become the person you are today? Like, for example, like your anxiety, you obviously predict things for yourself or feel things intuitively.

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So I'm assuming those gifts help you in your life because now, you know, I can't be friends with so and so because you feel things. So are those like the good things of your gifts in your day to day life? Sure. You know what I'm trying to say? Definitely.

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Yeah. Like that was not a good time. No, no, I got it.

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I got it. I got it. I'm with you.

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You know, it definitely is mostly a blessing with like twinges of a curse because definitely there are people that come into my life and I'm like, now I'm at the point where I trust my spidey senses so much that I'm like, no, no, no, we're not doing that. This is this is a straight up no or it's a like either it's a fuck yes or it's a fuck no for me. It's one or the other.

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It's very black and white in those ways. But, you know, having these gifts certainly have shaped me into who I am today. And the more that I embrace them, the more that I become me, if that makes sense.

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Yeah, it makes sense. And so, yeah, I just kind of roll with it. And I try to make aligned choices as much as I can.

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But despite being a psychic, I am, first and foremost, very much human. So I make lots of really good mistakes to learn lots of really good lessons to teach other people when I learn them. I love those moments.

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I feel the same way, like even though I'm a mental health advocate and I talk about mental health, I'm a freaking human. I'm making so many mistakes every day in my life these days that like you have to understand just because we are do this work in this world, we have a purpose. We want to make a difference doesn't mean we're not perfect.

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And we are struggling. We are literally struggling. We're making wrong choices.

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But that's the beauty part in this is like we're not perfect. We're actually not supposed to be. And I would say that those of us who are sort of leading the heartfelt revolution, we are meant to experience as much as we can in this lifetime and to have lots of different kinds of heartaches, lots of different kinds of, quote, mistakes.

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But I don't actually think that they're mistakes. Every mistake I've ever made, when I look back at it, I'm like, wow, look at those beautiful lessons that I learned. Look at all those things that I gained.

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Look at the strength that I have now. Look at how I've integrated all of those lessons into who I am and how much better I show up as a person, as a partner, as a daughter, as a sister, or at least try. You know, I make mistakes, but I'm always trying.

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I agree with you. And being so being that we're sensitive people, obviously, how do you balance your sensitivity with what's actually happening? Because I struggle with my sensitivity. I feel like everyone's out to get me all the time.

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I think it's just this sensitive feeling because sometimes I don't know, is this my energy that I'm picking up or is this someone else's? So how do you balance that? Yeah, the answer is, and it's going to sound very obvious, but the answer is self-care. I spend a lot of time with just me. I spend a lot of time with myself doing things that feel good for me because I want to feel good.

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And sometimes that's like sitting in my bedroom with the door closed, you know, watching movies or whatever. And other times it's, you know, taking myself out on dates, going for a drive, you know, getting my hair done, my nails done, like whatever the self-care thing is. But a lot of it is also just like being really diligent with my practice, meaning inviting and meditation to my life every day, even if it's just 11 minutes a day and writing in my journal, studying, learning things that help me to know myself better, like astrology, human design, you know, and really diving into my practices of remembering that I don't know a damn thing.

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And that when I get really stuck on everyone's out to get me, then I've become this like sort of backwards egomaniac that can't stop thinking about myself and how much other people think about me. But in reality, most people are not thinking about me. They're thinking about themselves, but I'm just spiraling in myself.

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So what I have to do is like find something that fulfills me, makes me feel good so that I can like come back to, wait a minute, no one's concerned about me, but me, but I need to be more loving to me so that when people are concerned about me or like, you know, projecting something onto me that I can just be like, wait a minute, I'm in my own zone. I know me and I don't actually need to give anything to what you're pushing on me. I'm in my own bubble.

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I'm in my own space. Do you know what I mean? So like, yeah. Then you're like, wait a minute, that's not mine.

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Like when everything in the world is chaotic, but I feel good. I'm like, no, that's me. That's me just being good.

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That's me being good. Yeah, it makes so much sense. I personally am an introvert by nature.

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So I don't like going out a lot. I don't go out ever. I will be in my room reading books.

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Lately, it's been romance books. Yeah, it's like, it's the weirdest book. I don't even want to say what it is.

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Mafia of Romance, okay. Guy kidnaps the girl, the girl falls in love with him. I don't know why I'm reading it, but I felt like I had to say that.

So that's me, that's me on my healing time. Love it. But I like never, like I have a few friends, but I'm very careful of my circle.

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Yes, and I because I'm sensitive and I don't really like going out and like being around people all the time that I just like my own personal space. Like you said, it could be like your own practice, whether it's like meditating. Like I do meditate.

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I've been trying to go back to yoga. I went last night. It was iffy.

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I didn't know if I like it, that class, but it's just me being me. But like you said, like locking yourself in the room, reading a book, taking a bath. That's me every day lately because I'm just so excited to have a quiet.

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Yes, you know, just freedom. Yes. Yeah.

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And that's my practice. I love that. Reading a book.

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Good. So like, I just know that when life picks up and things get hectic, I just try my best to just avoid the drama and the people. And that's why I keep my circle really close.

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That's right. Because I'm happier alone than I am with people that bring you down. Yeah, for sure.

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Like I used to have a friend, friends. Part of I want to go through. Never mind.

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I got it. Sometimes we evolve. And when we evolve, the more that we evolve, it tends to be that those who have a group mind thinking stay where they are and you evolve right on past even relationships.

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People just you meet someone and you fall in love because you're so young. You're 20 years old.